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Can we Reconcile with a Narcissist? (e.g., David Eells)

Since July of 2011, David Eells has been in a Matthew 18:17 status– he refused to hear the local Church (and 5 elders) regarding his sin/actions and has been admonished multiple times over the years, yet he refuses to confess/repent (Titus 3:10-11).

One of the former elders of UBM1.org, Bill Rowe, speaks of this July, 2011 event in great detail and analysis– you can access his testimony at <this link (PDF)>. Again, David Eells is the source of faction, and in our opinion, he is toxic and should be refused until he confesses/repents per Titus 3:10-11.

See the ‘David Eells – EXPOSED :0)‘ page for more detail. The password for this protected page is given only for a need-to-know basis. Contact support@ubmrecovery.org for help if you want to know the truth– be sure to specify who you are, and why you want access to the protected page.

In the video below (<YouTube Link>), Shaneen discusses reconciliation with a Narc and shares parallels out of the Bible, e.g., Jacob & Laban.

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5 Mind Games Narcissists Play | Narcissistic Abuse

Our ex Narc-elder would employ all five of these techniques. In the struggle sessions listed on the ‘David Eells – EXPOSED! :0)‘ page you will notice these games used by David Eells (DE). Knowledge of these games can help you detect, navigate and overcome these Narc games. Here is a direct link to Richard’s YouTube video.

Timestamps: • 00:00 Intro • 00:13 | 1. Pretending not to understand • 01:35 | 2. Deflect & Attack • 03:13 | 3. Deny & Distract • 04:46 | 4. Psychic Reading • 06:09 | 5. Reframing • 07:31 | What do we notice? • 08:35 | It’s Time to FIGHT BACK! • 10:57 | What are we to do? • 11:47 | 1. Give up Hope & Grieve • 12:47 | 2. Grey Rock Method • 13:32 | 3. Stop telling them how you feel • 15:11 | 4. Come back to you • 17:40 | Why it’s so hard to give up on them • 21:37 | 1. Child to Mother • 21:46 | 2. Mother abandons child • 23:20 | The solution to all of this

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When Narcissists Habitually Criticize

One primary ingredient you won’t experience with a narcissist is encouragement. Their most common “psychological language” is criticism. In their view, you are either making the grade or not.

Our ex narc-elder is the most critical person I have ever met– he often projects on to others that they are being critical of him, however he is the source of criticism and FACTION.

Dr. Les Carter breaks down what’s really at stake with their many criticisms, and you can rest assured (contrary to their protests) it says much more about them than about you. Click HERE for the YouTube link.

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Scapegoat Supply: Why Narcissists Obsessively Depend on Scapegoats to Maintain Their Image

Ever felt unfairly blamed? Perhaps you worked tirelessly in a team or business, giving your all to be an asset, only to find yourself continuously blamed and criticized, even for things beyond your control. You may have encountered similar dynamics in your family, where one member always seemed to put you down and find fault, while others received special treatment. If you’ve experienced this, you might have unknowingly become a scapegoat.

In this week’s blog, we’ll delve into the concept of scapegoating and explore the multifaceted reasons why narcissists resort to making someone their scapegoat in order to thrive and survive.

What is a scapegoat exactly? A scapegoat is a person, group, or entity that is unfairly blamed, criticized, or punished for the mistakes, wrongdoings, or problems of others. The scapegoat absorbs the blame and the negative consequences while it isn’t their fault.

Lots of people blame-shift from time to time, and some do it habitually. Narcissists, however, are particularly prone to scapegoating. They are obsessed with their superior self-image, with maintaining the upper hand in their relationships, and with being in control in their families, at work, and amongst friends.

Click here for the Shaneen’s Blog posting.