I had to wrestle with this question for months. Why did this happen to me, and why did it happen more than once? What was/is it about me that attracted my narc-elder to traumatically abuse me through fear, control, gaslighting and cognitive dissonance? Did I go through all of this so I could learn and warn/help others? I have sought this in prayer and I get a resounding yes!
I’ve noticed many YouTube channels pop-up about how to deal with narcissism and this is good – we need these folks bringing this to the forefront, but I have hardly seen any channels that deal specifically with narcissism coming from the pulpit and the traumatic effect this has on a local congregation. I can tell you firsthand that this damage is DEVASTATING and even deadly considering you are mixing the works of a malignant narcissist with faith, scriptures and such.
Exposing malignant narcissism in so-called ‘elders’ or pastors is needed more than ever and scripture even mandates we are to EXPOSE these works of darkness. These so-called fellowships or congregations become dangerous cults when their leader is a narc and seeks control over people’s lives. These narc-elders are in effect the wolves-in-sheep’s clothing Paul warned us about; it is these so-called elders/pastors/etc. we are to stand against and expose to the best of our ability – many innocent people’s lives are on the line.
I REFUSE to let what I experienced, and survived, go to waste by burying my head in the sand. Please check out the video below and pray for us as we Biblically expose these pied pipers.