Narcissists like it when you feel dysregulated, when you harbor feelings of doubt and uncertainty. Dr. Les Carter describes how one of their favorite tactics is gaslighting you with loaded questions for the purpose of you second-guessing your good sense. But as you learn to spot those questions, you can then choose to stand in your good character, not allowing the narcissist a foothold.
Our ex narc-elder would often use loaded questions to gaslight and cause doubt then pummel his victim with what I call ‘Bible Word Salads’ to confuse and derail- the result was fear and confusion.