Our ex narc-pastor kept an even temperance when around others; rarely would his mask slip down and expose his true evil nature. Narcs are good at presenting themselves as perfect: no problems, blessed by God, balanced, mentally healthy, etc. However, this is just a facade. Behind this mask are problems, … usually big problems. You can sometimes get a peek into what they are struggling with by their consistent projection onto others. Narcissists project onto others what they themselves are thinking and/or doing- it’s like the law of gravity. If you understand and see this projection, you can get some insight into the narc.
Sometimes, you WILL see a narcissist’s rage and it is not pretty. They spend most of their time protecting their IMAGE, so they will lie, exaggerate, embellish, etc., to others as a means of CONTROL and MANIPULATION. Check out the following video from Dr. Carter as he explains what lies beneath a narcissist’s RAGE.