By definition, narcissists want to be in control over you. Our ex narc-elder/pastor derived narcissistic energy (supply) from running his cult in an authoritarian fashion. He was (and is) accountable to nobody,… not even God. As a former military officer, I understand well the concept of ‘chain-of-command,’ … I once asked our narc-elder on a conference call who he was accountable to if we had issues with his behavior- he was speechless for a few seconds and then tried to explain away my inquiry. Subsequently, ALL of his elders resigned as a result trying to hold him accountable to his sinful actions. To this day, he says all of his elders were factious and this is why they left/resigned- a clear sign of delusion and projection.
As Dr. Les Carter explains, when narcissists embrace an authoritarian mindset, they will appeal to your sense of duty and obligation at the expense of your personal freedoms. They certainly do not like when you prioritize otherwise, yet for you to be healthy, you will need to refrain from buckling under their pressure.