Category: Narcissism

After the scales have fallen from your eyes about narcissistic toxicity in your religious group there is hope to escape, heal and rebuild your life and relationship with God. In order to escape with as little outgoing damage by the Narcissistic elder/pastor as possible, careful and deliberate planning must take place.

This >>>video<<< by Shaneen Megji lists seven steps to escape your toxic group unscathed.

I have been thinking deeply about narcissistic abuse and the hurt/damage it causes… while I am still examining and praying about this I feel God is telling me that forgiveness and love are the ultimate tools for healing and recovery.

Someone once said to me, [paraphrased]: ‘It’s more important to realize that although you may have been wronged, e.g., lied about, etc,… the Lord knows the truth. Many lied about Jesus as well.’

This letting-go and letting-God is a deep level of God’s work in us as we heal and recover. I am learning more and more, that despite the narcissistic abuse I may have endured, faith, hope and love are keys to healing and recovery,… and the greatest of these is LOVE. Regardless of our abuse, and who was right or wrong, we must forgive and in many cases we need God’s help to do this…. More on this topic later as it is revealed to me.

Narcissism is a fear-based pattern of life, yet most narcissists will deny how they are steeped in it. Often they will proclaim statements like, ‘Hey, Sis, look at me I have no fear’ of this or that,… while they project their toxic psychopathy onto their victims. They are LIARS, CHEATS, and THIEVES, and most importantly they are INSECURE. They have to put on a fake show for others because deep down inside, they are in fear of people seeing their true nature. I have dealt with these narcs (overt and covert) and by the grace of God, sniffed out their charade(s) early-on. Check out the >>video<< below by Dr. Carter regarding narcs who claim they have no fear.

Dr. Les Carter goes beyond the obvious signs of fear to expose many of the ways it can be displayed…in their anger, their need for control, and much more. Narcissists are stuck in their dysfunctions because they refuse to be honest about what drives them.

It is important to understand the traumatic damage caused by narcissistic abuse. Be patient with yourself as you heal– it takes time to recover.

Check out this >>> video <<< below from Dr. Carter regarding Post Traumatic Stress (PTS) caused by a Narcissist.

All sorts of ingredients are necessary for relationships to be rewarding and successful, but none is more crucial than trust. Healthy relationships require teamwork, good conflict resolution skills, understanding, humor, intentionality, encouragement, shared values, reliability, respect, availability, and patience. But without trust, none of those qualities can be sustained. Trust is the rock bottom foundation for relational success…in family systems, at work, in social circles, within political structures, and inside organizations.

Now, let’s consider the question: Do narcissists put a high premium upon building trust within their various relationships? Certainly, they desire loyalty, conformity, pleasure, measurable gain, goal attainment, and gratification. But trust is not among the qualities they engender. They may say they wish for trust to be found, but their definition of trust is quite self-serving.

Check out the following >>> video <<< for Dr. Carter’s presentation on this subject.