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Are Narcissists Evil?

From our abusive experience, spiritual narcissists ARE evil.  Their very actions often contradict the teachings of the Bible/Jesus, such as: love your enemy, do good to them that despitefully use you, and forgive one another as I have forgiven you.

Spiritual Narcs (S-Narc) have an agenda and work very hard to maintain their facade to keep their charade going.  It might look good, but if you spend any time in the local fellowship you sense something is off, something smells bad.  The Narc-Elder typically has tools to keep people under his control such as the threat of shunning (‘faction protocol’) or fear and intimidation of missing God’s approval/blessings or actual physical curses or catostrophic events such as earthquakes, Planet X hitting the earth and other such silliness.  It would almost be funny if it wasn’t so seriously abusive to the victims.  This kind of fear, intimidation and control impedes victims of their relationship with God through the Holy Spirit.  The S-Narc places himself (or herself, i.e., a ‘Prophetess’) in place of the Holy Spirit though words of revelations and DREAMS.

WARNING!!!  When dreams are emphasized more than your personal relationship with Christ through the Holy Spirit, … RUN!  Start working on an escape strategy/plan.  We have a whole section dedicated on HOW TO ESCAPE.  You have to plan, else you risk things getting really bad with others in your abusive group.  Remember, people will react different ways to you leaving, so it’s best that NOBODY knows your plans until you are already escaping.  Again, see our Process Point section on Escape.

To get another angle on this subject, check out this article Kaleah LaRoche on evil narcissists. Click HERE for the link to the full article.

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How Narcissists Torture Others and Why They Believe They’re Right to Do It

Check out this great article from the Narcissist Family Files… :o)

As the saying goes, we often hurt the ones we love, but narcissists torture others deliberately and with little to no restraint.

Merriam-Webster defines torture as “the infliction of “intense pain to coerce, punish, or afford sadistic pleasure” and “anguish of body or mind.” Anyone who has had the misfortune of being targeted by a narcissist knows very well that torture is in fact precisely the word for the experience. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is by nature an abusive disorder because of the narcissist’s deficient development of ego and empathy, which leads him/her to compensate with a false vainglorious omnipotent persona in the absence of a moderating conscience.

Those closest to people with NPD, such as a partner/spouse and children, are at most risk of torturous behavior. It can range from psycho-emotional to physical and sexual, but it is inevitable because narcissists don’t care if they hurt others while at the same time are always attempting to exert control.

CLICK HERE FOR THE LINK TO THE WHOLE ARTICLE.

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I experienced this for at least 18 months! Check this out…

Depersonalization: I called this being ‘hollowed out’ by the spiritual/emotional abuse I went through.  I felt like I was in a hole and the anytime hope would come it would eventually be pulled out from underneath me.  It is my opinion that my spiritual abuser knew this and continued this abuse to get his narcissistic dopamine high. :o)

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Broken Trust: …a practical guide to identify and recover from toxic faith, toxic church, and spiritual abuse

Check out this awesome book!  Here’s an excerpt from Chapter 11 of the book that is very revealing. :o)

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Should You Confront Your Leaders? 

If you are dealing with a normal, rational, and compassionate group of leaders, I would say, “Please, sit down with your leaders to discuss your concerns.” That’s the God-honoring thing to do. But that’s not usually the case with spiritual abuse. You have to play by different rules because the leaders use different rules! You might need to abandon protocol to protect yourself. Abusive leaders will often criticize you for mishandling the way you bring up the issue, putting you in a “no-win” situation, or, what some people refer to as a “double-bind.” If you say nothing, they will say, “If we are so bad, then why didn’t you say something?” But if you say something, they will criticize you for your rebellious spirit, or for not taking the proper steps to state your concerns, often accusing you of gossip and slander. Damned if you do. Damned if you don’t.

My answer to their criticism is, “When a house is burning, we don’t always do the right thing. Our fear can cause us to take missteps. Should we criticize the person trying to escape for using the wrong exit, or should we try to put the fire out?” When people are being hurt, the goal is to stop the abuse as quickly as possible. You have to decide for yourself if that means confronting the leadership or leaving. If everyone left, it would send a powerful message and probably get results quicker than a slow exit or trying to confront the abuse. Your response should equal the severity of the abuse. For a few strong individuals, probably in some level of leadership, they might feel called to stay to confront the abusers, guide the organization through dismantling the abuse, and rebuild the faith community, if possible.

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Here’s a link to get the book:

https://www.amazon.com/Broken-Trust-practical-spiritual-Overcoming-ebook/dp/B073491BLN