As a way of control the narc-elder has techniques to try to make you compliant with their charades. If you do not become totally compliant and OBEY them in ALL things, and you dare stand up to them, you WILL be setup/framed-up and become the SCAPEGOAT.
Verbiage of Dr. Carter’s video below: Inevitably when we become aware of the whole pattern of narcissism we realize that in their need for CONTROL, DOMINANCE, manipulative/exploitive behavior, these narc-elders need narcissistic supply. They need somebody to say: Yes, you are the best, you are wonderful, etc. So, they HAVE to have people who will bow to them – in narcissistic parlance these folks are called the ‘Flying Monkeys.’ These are fellowship members that hand over their wills to the narc-elder and let them be in charge.
Now, very commonly narcissists as they spot YOU will determine that you are not becoming one of their flying monkeys. You’re not willing to bow to them and they do NOT like this – you are a THREAT to unmasking them and their whole charade.
This is what happened to me as I exposed and confronted my ex narc-elder about his hypocritical affair with another married woman in his fellowship. So, he went about scapegoating, framing, and smearing me. I was one of many this has happened to by this so-called minister of the Gospel.
Check out this this video below. More about my experiences with this narc-elder soon. :o)