Author: nathan_jehu

A quote from the article linked below…

“Most of the time abusive people will change when lovingly confronted with the effects of their abuse.”

This did NOT work with our ex narc-elder.  He was confronted by several people, in love, for correction and he not only refused to repent, but created a new doctrine which justified his willful sin.  As a result, his remaining 4 elders and others from the congregation resigned in protest of his arrogance and continued spiritual and emotional abuse.  Since then (2011) he has tried to sweep this fact under the rug as new scandals are emerging.  It’s sad, but this narc-elder resorts to calculated smear and defamation campaigns against anyone who confronts him and leaves.  Lies, frame-ups are conjured up and local members are gas-lighted to believe the narc-elder’s lies to keep them from receiving witnesses of truth.  People are being destroyed by this narc-elder and the effects his spiritual abuse remain long after someone leaves.

2 Thessalonians talks about those who do not have a love of the truth WILL be sent a strong delusion that they would believe a lie.  Dangerous words but true (no pun intended).  Paul also warned about how shortly after his departure, ravenous wolves would enter into the church not sparing the flock.  We talk about these wolves-in-sheep’s clothing, but what do they look like?  As you know, this site focuses on spiritual abuse in the context of narcissism, sociopathy and other analysis.  The scriptures should always be our final authority on doctrine, correction, etc., as outline in the book of Timothy.

So, … if Paul warned about this problem then, it’s probably a lot worse now, right?  With the advent of the Internet almost anyone can host a site, a YouTube channel, a Facebook page and subtly deceive many.  The so-called ministry we came out of is like this; it appeared to give much good info about Jesus (for FREE!), holiness and righteousness, but it’s so-called leadership and it’s handling of people trying to hold the elder accountable is deeply flawed, revealing and dangerous.

Always look for the perfect sheep ‘elder’ and most often you will find the wolf.

Here is an article presents some interesting points to consider.  Click HERE for the article.

:o)  <<< Yes, this happy face was used by our ex narc-elder in emails and texts – it’s his trademark signature.  It reminds us of a creepy clown; he uses this emoticon in bizarre ways at bizarre times.  We will delve into this dark rabbit hole in another post.

Until then, the following graphic shows an important aspect of how a cult narc-elder operates under his delusion.  He thinks he is God; now he may not overtly admit it but when he places a rock on his front lawn and has a sign that says ‘The Stone Which the Builders Rejected’ referring to himself, this becomes a subliminal planted seed in the minds of his followers.  It’s effective and nefarious.  We will depict more on this kind of cult programming and this trajectory of a narc-elder believing himself something to be worshipped, albeit indirectly and it’s deadly influence on those he takes authority over.    More to come on this important topic of spiritual abuse and cult programming soon. :o)

Below is a great article by Dr. Darrell Puls.  This is an epidemic.  The abuse and damage from these wolves-in-sheep’s clothing is incalculable.  See below for the link to the full article.  A M A Z I N G conclusions based on DATA.

‘It is impossible to describe the emotional and spiritual devastation caused by narcissistic rage laser-focused on destroying you. It happened to me as an Associate Pastor under a Senior Pastor I would later learn fit the diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (Covert). After 20 minutes of having my every foible and weakness machine-gunned at me and leaving me in a state of unresponsive shock, he wanted a hug before he walked out of my office! Shortly after I was cut off from every ministry I loved and found myself persona non-grata with the other pastors. I resigned in utter despair’

Click HERE for the full article.  And please lift up the victims who are trapped in these toxic churches and cults.  

You can apply this to your spiritually abusive narc-leader/elder.  I wish I had known this information years ago.

I maintain that verbal abuse is horrendous enough; the article linked below presents 7 consequences of verbal abuse.  I say that abuse that is spiritual in nature (and in a cult environment) multiplies these consequences signinficantly.  I speak from experience, not theory.  The abuse I experienced by my ex narc-‘elder’ contributed to my hell-on-earth for the past 3+ years.  People who experience what I endured typically are diagnosed with Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD).

My ex narc-‘elder’ also enjoyed the emotional pain/torture he caused me, receiving a dopamine high from his abuse.  When he would abuse others like this he would sometimes order pizza in some kind of twisted celebration/high.

So called ‘elders’ who employ this kind of abuse MUST be exposed and brought to accountability – they are destroying God’s people, their relationships with others and their relationship with God.  It cannot be overstated how serious are spiritual and emotional abuse by these narcissistic sociopath elders.  WE MUST STAND UP TO THESE WOLVES-IN-SHEEP’S CLOTHING.

Click HERE for an article detailing 7 consequences of verbal abuse.  NOTE:  when reading this article, keep in mind how adding the spiritual component to this abuse causes even greater damage.  It’s very important to understand these points so you can help those coming out of spiritually abusive relationships and cults.