Author: nathan_jehu

Good info below to arm yourself so you are not caught off-guard when you finally escape a narcissistic relationship.

It has been my experience that Narcissists only understand two things when it comes to boundaries: Force and Consequence. They don’t care about you, so they do NOT respect your boundaries. You have to be forceful (blunt) and present a consequence (e.g., going to jail) to thwart them from their evil action(s). Check out Dr. Carter’s video below where talks about blunt communication.

As you engage with narcissists, they are checking you out to determine how vulnerable you might be. Wishing to find supply for their egotistical agenda, they pick up on cues that imply you could be exploited. Dr. Les Carter identifies 10 primary behaviors that send the message: “I’m available to be manipulated.” If you are aware of those behaviors, though, you can stay out of their clutches.

Unlike their grandiose counterparts, covert narcissists are more subdued and subtle in their self-absorbed control. Dr. Les Carter explains that their covert, subtle manner is the perfect cover for gaslighting. He gives multiple illustrations about how they operate in ways to undermine your good plans. But if you are onto their schemes, you can stay out of their games successfully.

While overt narcissists are brash in the ways they convey self-absorption, covert narcissists use a host of silent means to let you know how they really feel. Dr. Les Carter reminds us that there is no such thing as no communication, so in order to know how to manage your reactions to the covert narcissist, you will need to be aware of their silent, but effective styles of communicating.