Below is a comment I saw on YouTube in regards to a video about how Narcs gaslight people. I thought the comment was so apropos to how our ex narc-elder would treat members who either disagreed with him (and didn’t conform to his will) and/or confronted/exposed him for his ‘willful’ sin.
‘”After confronting them over their wrongdoing they will not own up, instead make pointless excuses. And as if that wasn’t enough they then turn the tables on you so that you end up being unfairly scapegoated – which they won’t redress: they must never be ‘seen’ to be in the wrong: appearance is everything to them. They will even betray your confidence if need be. Then, when you express anger at this and blow them out for what they’ve done to you they’ll then come back and say “After all I’ve done for you!”‘